One of the many ingredients to a successful marriage is the constant effort in getting to know one another on a regular basis. We often take for granted the time we spend with our partners, assuming that because we have been together for a long time there is no longer any need to keep getting to know one another. However, to take the time to learn about each other’s past, present and future is incredibly vital to make any marriage last a lifetime. A married couple that have been together for over 50 years still feel the need to check in with their spouse and talk about how they are doing with their life. Getting to know your spouse on a deeper level will not only strengthen the bond and connection between the two of you, but it will also give you great insight into his world in a way that you wouldn’t have been able to see otherwise.

To help you and your spouse reconnect and get to know each other on a deeper level, we have compiled 12 questions you both can ask each other. While some are light, some may also be a little bit harder to answer. When going through these questions, make sure that it is done at a time when the both of you can completely focus on each other – no distractions (limited time, phone calls, other people, etc.).

1. What were some of your favorite memories as a child?

2. What did you find difficult about your childhood?

3. What did your parents teach you that you appreciate now?

4. How do you see yourself us a father?

5. How would you like to see me as a mother?

6. What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?

7. What do you aspire to have in life?

8. How do you feel about this relationship?

9. How do you see us being in the future?

10. What are your most memorable memories of us?

11. How do you like me saying I love you the most; through gifts, words, actions or service?

12. What can I do to meet your physical desires and needs better?

What these questions allow you to do is to be completely vulnerable in the presence of your spouse and vice versa. When the both of you can let each other in on the nice and the not so nice parts of each other’s lives, the love you share with one another will simply grow even more. Simply make sure these deeper conversations happen on a regular basis and become a normal part of your relationship, not just a one-time thing. If you both can get through these sorts of questions together and still want to be with one another, then you know for certain that your spouse is the right person for you