We meet couples who are getting married all the time. Some are pretty laid-back while some are pretty high strung (these are the so-called Bridezillas). But they all have one thing in common: they are very much in love. We love the look of love radiating from their faces. The natural glow brings so much inspiration to us. 

We know know of the pressure they bring unto themselves in preparation for the biggest day of their lives. Even a year of preparation might not be enough – and essentially so. They have so many decisions to make for one single event. Venues, invitations, guest list, the bridal party, the decor, ambiance, not to mention the dress, the boutennieres, the photographers, the wow factors etc.. the list goes on and on. Oh, wedding planning can be stressful and joyful at the same time.

But somehow, in the midst of that crazy planning, some couples tend to miss the essential part of it: marriage planning.

“Is he the one?” “Is this the one I am destined to spend the rest of my life with?” “Will he be the one who grows old with me?” It is unfortunate how these questions – these important questions – get buried under the (seemingly) superficial concerns like “shall we use artificial or fresh flowers?”

Use the time before you are married to lay out the groundwork for your marriage. It might not be pretty. It might be messy. But it will save you a lot in the long run. Ask important questions. Address the uncomfortable issues. Get the gory details out in the open and learn to be transparent towards each other. Discover what you can and cannot tolerate about each other and learn to accept your husband-to-be for the man he is and for the man he will be. Understand what you love about him and commit to it, so when the storm hits you will have something to hold on to.

When there are no more surprises hidden in the closet, you can focus on growing your relationship. Use this time to get to know each other a little better every day. Leave the wedding planning to the professionals and let yourself focus on the joys of getting married. Planning a marriage is just as important as planning a wedding. It’s more important, in fact. After all, we all want our marriage to be more beautiful than our weddings.

 

Much love,

Butterfly Event Styling